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    A Note to Mom | Listen to Your Mother

    The day before Mother’s Day, thirteen Seattle area writers came together to share their thoughts and observations on motherhood at Seattle’s inaugural production of the Listen to Your Mother show. I was one of those writers. Today, videos of each segment of the show were released. I appeared first, so my clip is up first, but you can keep watching to see the whole show. What an amazing experience. I’m so honored to be included with this amazing group of writers.

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    What your mom wants for Mothers Day

    * She wants the handmade crafts – the pictures, the paintings, the little sculptures, the handprints, the inedible breakfast – But the coffee, she wants the coffee to be good, so if you haven’t mastered that skill yet, step aside * She wants to laugh without peeing her pants * She wants her great aunt’s ring back that you tried on because it was sparkly but then lost somewhere in your bedroom * She wants you to clean your room * She wants some privacy in the bathroom * She wants you to know that loves hearing you say mom, or mama, or mommy, or mumum or whatever it is…

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    The birds and the bees of butterflies

    We got our six-year-old a butterfly habitat for her birthday. Essentially, it’s a mesh enclosure that comes with a gift certificate for caterpillars. The caterpillars were quiet at first, but after a few days, they got active and started spinning themselves into their cocoons. Ten days later, butterflies emerged. So we took them to the park to give them their freedom. We unzipped the lid to free them, and waited for them to fly away. And waited. But they seemed quite content to hang out in their little habitat sipping orange juice. Eventually, one flew away, and then another. But the remaining two were just hanging out on an apple…

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    Lisa Bonchek Adams

    It has been almost exactly 5 years since my world was turned upside down with the words “It’s cancer.” In those years, there have been many things that sustained me: my family, my friends. I know I’ve written extensively about how my girls in YSC have held me up and helped me keep it together. But another thing that helped me through this hell-ride of cancer survivorship is the voices of other bloggers with cancer. Through the magic of the interwebs, we were able to find each other, encourage each other, and be there for each other. These voices, I could recognize from just a couple sentences of their writing,…

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    Listen to Your Mother

    I’m supposed to be on vacation right now. Actually, I AM on vacation right now, hidden away on a cabin on an island with a few close friends, but I just had to share something. I recently did something brave and scary: I worked up the nerve to audition for Listen To Your Mother. What is Listen to Your Mother? LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER features live readings by local writers on the beauty, the beast, and the barely-rested of motherhood, in celebration of Mother’s Day. Born of the creative work of mothers who publish on-line, each production is directed, produced, and performed by local communities, for local communities. Today, the cast of…

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    How to deal with disappointment

    I know that one of my jobs as a parent is to teach her how to deal with disappointment – but not like this; this isn’t what I had in mind. We should be working on learning how to gracefully accept that she gets what she gets for dinner, and not necessarily a doughnut. We should be working on accepting the fact that she’s not getting a pony for her birthday. We should be working on understanding that all fun activities end eventually, and when the playdate is over, we need to gracefully go home. Instead, we had to cancel our vacation last minute because I came down with influenza. She…

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    Here’s to the moms

    To the mom who brings her child her own cup cake to a kid’s birthday party, I know you get looks from the other parents, but I understand. Food sensitivities are nothing to mess with. I know you stayed up late working on that cupcake. You made it extra pretty. You brought it, not because you were trying to make your child feel excluded, but just the opposite, you wanted her to be a part of this party, and you wanted her to have a treat, just like all the other kids. but you had to make it safe for her. It’s not easy to see your kid on the…

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    Traveling to Alaska

    I’m thinking about going to Alaska. Next week. Who goes to Alaska in February? This is the time of year even Alaskans try to escape. Well, my mom, for starters. And my brother. They’re both moving back to Alaska and decided to caravan together. Last time I went to Alaska, it was in the middle of summer. I took these photos on our last trip to Alaska. Mom was moving back up there that time as well, and Gem and I tagged along with her. She was so little then. This time, they are taking the ferry rather than driving the entire way through Canada, and they invited us along for the…

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    Comparing Pain

    She wanted to talk to me about cancer, but she hesitated. She was worried because she thought her cancer wasn’t as bad as mine. When I finally realized the reason for the hesitation, for the trepidation in her voice, my heart dropped. She had just apologized because she thought her cancer wasn’t bad enough. No one should ever have to do that. It hurts to think I might have given that impression, but I know it’s not just me. This issue of comparison is part of our culture. We compare cars, houses, job titles, the behavior of our kids, and even our pain. Comparing pain is insidious. We are measured against others throughout…