10 insightful posts about Fathers Day

10 insightful posts about Fathers Day

Aaron spent the past two days simmering his homemade ragu. I’d love to share a recipe, but his sauce is an expression of his love for food rather than anything that could be pinned to paper. Two days of simmering, tasting, adding, hand wringing, simmering, tasting, adding, tasting, simmering… a lot of love went into this meal. On Father’s Day, we finally got to sit down and eat it, and it was definitely worth the wait. I’m not sure if he planned to have the sauce ready for Father’s Day, or if it just worked out that way, but I certainly wasn’t going to get in his way. I didn’t have to cook. And the food was amazing.

I’m so lucky to have such a great husband, who also happens to be an awesome dad to our 5-year-old, and an amazing, if occasional, cook.

So instead of cooking, I’m going to round up some of my favorite fathers day posts this year. I’ll tackle the dishes later.

10 insightful posts about fathers day

  1. Dale Partridge is one of my favorite writers, and he delivers again with this post on the things dads need to hear.
  2. John Kinnear at Ask Your Dad tells us a little about how his dad shaped the man he became.
  3. Suzanne Braun Levine discusses how dads parent differently now in this HuffPo piece. This is something I have noticed myself. I love how involved dads is not only a trend, it’s becoming an expectation, and guys are living up to it.
  4. Hillary from Domestic Bliss Squared pens a letter to her dad explaining how she came to a new understanding of his perspective after becoming a parent herself.
  5. DudeMom shares 10 things I love about my husband as a father.
  6. On BlogHer, manvsmommy comes through with a wonderful letter to her husband that said something dads really need to hear, and reminding me that I need to say thank you to my husband as well. He’s an awesome dad, too.
  7. In this TED Talk, Steve Addis shares how a little father-daughter tradition helped to bond him with his daughter.
  8. Gina at Fitnessista talks about falling in love with her husband in a new way after watching him become a father. I can certainly relate to that feeling.
  9. And because we need a giggle in here, P.J. Rourke shares some thoughts on the ridiculousness of Father’s Day.
  10. I definitely need to include my own post: 5 things I learned from my Dad. I wrote this the first Father’s Day after he passed away, but those lessons are still the ones I would pick.


Happy Reading.

Happy Father’s Day.

And, wish me luck on those dishes!

My loves and the sea

My loves and the sea

I love the sea. I love its fury. I love its calming presence.

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I love the ebb and flow.

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So much life and movement and energy.

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It is, at once, destructive and regenerative.

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I could sit and watch the sea for hours. And sometimes we do.

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My loves, both, also enchanted by the sea.

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But today, she also wanted to fly.

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Eight years

Eight years

Dear Universe:

The sickness and poorer part of our vows were not an invitation. I’ll have you know that despite pneumonia, cancer, myasethenia gravis, a combined 18 nights in the hospital, more than 10 dashes to the ER, 8 years of at least one and usually both of us as full-time college students, layoffs, hours cut, car trouble, eviction notices, healthy diets, exercise, a sweet and miraculously healthy baby girl, daily “adventures”, good friends, a lot of wine, belly laughs, a home full of books, homemade dinners, long conversations late into the night, snuggling, holding hands, and occasional long walks on the beach, we’re happier and more in love than ever. You should also be aware that we have not given up hope on the richer and health part of those vows. You know where to find us.

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judy schwartz haley and aaron albert haley

Also, Happy Anniversary to my amazing husband. I love you more.


St. Paul Outside-the-Walls

He had just completed two flights from Seattle to Newark, then JFK to Rome, and he had just a few hours in Rome before hopping another flight to Istanbul. Somewhere in his rush to see as much of Rome as he could, he zagged when he should have zigged, and found himself in front of St. Paul’s Basilica (also known as the Papal Basilica St. Paul Outside-the-Walls) instead of  the the more popular tourist destinations.

He said it wasn’t even all that much to look at from the outside, deserted even, but once he entered the gates – wow.

Sometimes that’s how it works. Sometimes it’s the errant zags that lead us to the magic – magic we wouldn’t have found if we weren’t in motion in the first place.





I’ve been googling all morning, and I still haven’t figured out why “Outside-the-Walls” is so important that it became a crucial part of this basilica’s name. If any of you know, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Above photos are all by Aaron Albert Haley. 

Istanbul (not Constantinople)

Istanbul (not Constantinople)

My husband just returned from a quick trip to Istanbul, where he presented a paper at the International Society for Iranian Studies conference. If you ever wanted someone with whom to discuss the Gothic Sublime, and repetition and imagery in Sadeq Hedayat’s The Blind Owl, I’ve got your man. Also, here’s some pictures he took of Istanbul.

Unfortunately, he had no time for sightseeing, but I think he got some great shots.

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Above photos are all by Aaron Albert Haley


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