{"id":8325,"date":"2015-03-07T11:50:43","date_gmt":"2015-03-07T18:50:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=8325"},"modified":"2021-03-18T22:09:28","modified_gmt":"2021-03-19T05:09:28","slug":"lisa-bonchek-adams","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2015\/03\/07\/lisa-bonchek-adams\/","title":{"rendered":"Lisa Bonchek Adams"},"content":{"rendered":"

It has been almost exactly 5 years since my world was turned upside down with the words “It’s cancer.” In those years, there have been many things that sustained me: my family, my friends. I know I’ve written extensively about how my girls in YSC have held me up and helped me keep it together.<\/p>\n

But another thing that helped me through this hell-ride of cancer survivorship is the voices of other bloggers with cancer. Through the magic of the interwebs, we were able to find each other, encourage each other, and be there for each other. These voices, I could recognize from just a couple sentences of their writing, but in many cases, I could easily pass on the sidewalk without recognition,
\nbecause we never met.<\/p>\n

Last night, another one of those voices was silenced. Lisa Bonchek Adams died because of breast cancer.<\/p>\n

It’s a little confusing for me. Despite all these deaths I’ve experienced over this handful of years, I still haven’t learned how to appropriately grieve, to mourn these women who, for a short while, traveled this same bumpy road with me. How do I mourn someone I only know through facebook exchanges, and blog comments?<\/p>\n

But I’m making this about me. I’m furious and sad for children who were separated from their mother, for her husband, for her real-world loved ones, as well as all the lives she touched with her words.<\/p>\n

But she will live on through all the lives she touched. She will live on through her words, her blog, so I will close this with a quote from Lisa:<\/p>\n

\u201cFind a bit of beauty in the world today. Share it. If you can\u2019t find it, create it. Some days this may be hard to do. Persevere.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"Lisa<\/a><\/p>\n

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It has been almost exactly 5 years since my world was turned upside down with the words “It’s cancer.” In those years, there have been many things that sustained me: my family, my friends. I know I’ve written extensively about how my girls in YSC have held me up and helped me keep it together. 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