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I know that one of my jobs as a parent is to teach her how to deal with disappointment – but not like this; this isn’t what I had in mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be working on learning how to gracefully accept that she gets what she gets for dinner, and not necessarily a doughnut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We should be working on accepting the fact that she’s not getting a pony for her birthday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be working on understanding that all fun activities end eventually, and when the playdate is over, we need to gracefully go home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, we had to cancel our vacation last minute because I came down with influenza. She was so excited about our trip to Alaska<\/a>, but I was far too sick to take her anywhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I sat down in her kid-sized green and white polka-dot easy chair and pulled her into my lap. “I have some bad news,” I said, “we can’t go to Alaska tomorrow because Mommy is sick.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“No, no, no, no, no,” she repeated several times, and then she stopped. “It’s okay, Mommy. I know sometimes we can’t do things when you get sick.” She rested her head on my shoulder a bit, then ran out to the living room to play as if nothing had happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It hurts the way she has normalized my illnesses, Mommy being sick is just part of her life. Stupid cancer keeps messing with me, even when it’s not cancer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But as much as it hurts, I’m proud of her, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meanwhile, she still wants a doughnut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this time, she got one.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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