{"id":7049,"date":"2014-09-22T09:43:48","date_gmt":"2014-09-22T16:43:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=7049"},"modified":"2021-03-18T22:18:17","modified_gmt":"2021-03-19T05:18:17","slug":"cancer-and-parenting-becky","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/22\/cancer-and-parenting-becky\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Juggle Cancer and Parenting: Becky E’s Story"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n\n\n
Age at diagnosis:<\/strong>\u00a034<\/td>\nDiagnosis Date:<\/strong>\u00a02010<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Type of Cancer:\u00a0<\/strong>Breast cancer –\u00a0DCIS with microinvasion<\/td>\nStage at Diagnosis:\u00a0<\/strong>Stage 1<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Treatment Plan<\/strong>:\u00a0Bilateral mastectomy<\/td>\nCurrent Status:\u00a0<\/strong>cancer-free (I pray)!<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

\"How<\/a><\/p>\n

How did you tell your kids about the cancer diagnosis?<\/h4>\n

Shared very limited details but just told them that mommy would have a surgery to get rid of some disease growing inside my body. My baby was only 3 months old.<\/p>\n

How did your kids respond?<\/h4>\n

They didn\u2019t seem to care but were VERY good at giving gentle hugs after surgery.<\/p>\n

What are some things you did that worked really well for your family with regards to dealing with the cancer, and treatment, while raising children?<\/h4>\n

Lots of outside support.<\/p>\n

Is there anything you wish you\u2019d done differently?<\/h4>\n

Nope<\/p>\n

How did the impact of cancer change as time passed, and your children grew? Did it change?<\/h4>\n

they don\u2019t really know much still.<\/p>\n

Do you have concerns about the long term impact of your cancer on your children?<\/h4>\n

Yes. I\u2019m most concerned for my daughter and how she\u2019ll associate her own body when looking at mine. She\u2019ll understand when she\u2019s older<\/p>\n

What advice would you give to other moms who are diagnosed with cancer?<\/h4>\n

Take time, breathe, and find ways to smile and laugh.<\/p>\n

What concerns or fears troubled you the most?<\/h4>\n

recurrence<\/p>\n

How did you deal with those fears?<\/h4>\n

Deal every day. It\u2019s a very scary world.<\/p>\n

Have those fears and concerns changed over time?<\/h4>\n

No<\/p>\n

What was your darkest moment?<\/h4>\n

No super dark moments per se.<\/p>\n

What was your best moment?<\/h4>\n

Post surgery to find out that no nodes were involved.<\/p>\n

Did you decide to add more children to your family after your diagnosis? How did cancer figure into your decision?<\/h4>\n

No more children were planned but had nothing to do with cancer. We wanted 3 and we have them. I\u2019m grateful.<\/p>\n

What did you do to take care of you? How did you splurge on yourself?<\/h4>\n

I\u2019m not sure I have.<\/p>\n

Were you able to get help from friends and family members while you were going through treatment?<\/h4>\n

Yes. A lot. I am surrounded by amazing people.<\/p>\n

Was it difficult to ask for help? Do you have any suggestions around the topic of asking for help?<\/h4>\n

People will offer. When they do, say yes. And be sure to pay it forward.<\/p>\n

Did you have an online resource that helped you through this experience?<\/h4>\n

YSC<\/a>! While I\u2019m not very active in the group, reading the site and the FB page is a huge, huge help.<\/p>\n

Did cancer\/treatment impact your relationship with your spouse\/partner?<\/h4>\n

Not in a huge way.<\/p>\n

Do you have any relationship advice for young moms dealing with cancer?<\/h4>\n

Laugh. Remember to connect with each other. Laugh some more.<\/p>\n

What is something you wish your friends and family members understood about your cancer and its impact on your life? What would you tell the friends and family members of other mom\u2019s diagnosed with cancer? What would you want them to know about what she\u2019s about to go through, and how best they can support her?<\/h4>\n

Recurrence is a real fear and something that comes up a lot. Help to keep me smiling and laughing and I\u2019ll do the same for you!<\/p>\n

Were there any cancer-related activities or events in which you participated that you think were especially helpful to you or members of your family?<\/h4>\n

No.. not really. I do Race for the Cure each year. It\u2019s taken on a new meaning.<\/p>\n

Are there any resources that you recommend?<\/h4>\n

For young women \u2013 YSC<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What are some solutions you found to practical problems of combining cancer treatment with raising young children?<\/h4>\n

I had lots of help and would have people help put my daughter close to me to snuggle.<\/p>\n

\"coffeejitters<\/p>\n

You can find more on the How to Juggle Cancer and Parenting Series<\/a> here:<\/p>\n

\"manage<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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