{"id":7027,"date":"2014-09-01T20:49:46","date_gmt":"2014-09-02T03:49:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=7027"},"modified":"2021-08-29T22:44:29","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T05:44:29","slug":"juggle-cancer-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/01\/juggle-cancer-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Juggle Cancer and Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010, one of the first things I did was head straight to the book store. I was looking for a book that would tell me how to juggle cancer and parenting my infant daughter.&nbsp;I didn&#8217;t find anything that provided helpful information or practical steps I&nbsp;could take to help ensure that my daughter still gets a vibrant childhood even when I have trouble getting out of bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a writer, one recurring piece advice I keep hearing is write the book you want to read. While not a book, this blog series on cancer and parenting is a step in that direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you found this site because you are in that unenviable position of having both cancer and young children, let me just say that the road ahead of you is difficult, but it is also full of love and joy. The thing I needed to hear most at this point in my journey was that my child can have a wonderful childhood and grow into a compassionate and strong adult despite my cancer. Your child can too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"200\" data-attachment-id=\"10038\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2015\/08\/03\/cancer-cellulitis-and-the-lymphedema-treatment-act\/iv-bag\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?fit=1000%2C200\" data-orig-size=\"1000,200\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"iv-bag\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?fit=1000%2C200\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?resize=1000%2C200\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-10038\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?w=1000 1000w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?resize=300%2C60 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/iv-bag.png?resize=768%2C154 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>This page is a work in progress; as each interview and story is posted, this page will be updated with the new post. I&#8217;ve got one post per week lined up for several months. Check back often to read more stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/juggle-cancer-parenting\/share-your-story\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-7303\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"327\" data-attachment-id=\"7303\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/01\/juggle-cancer-parenting\/share-your-story\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?fit=755%2C386\" data-orig-size=\"755,386\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"How to Juggle Cancer and Parenting | CoffeeJitters.Net\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?fit=640%2C327\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?resize=640%2C327\" alt=\"Share Your Story | CoffeeJitters.Net\" class=\"wp-image-7303\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?resize=640%2C327 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?resize=300%2C153 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/share-your-story.png?w=755 755w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Did you have cancer while raising your children? 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