{"id":4961,"date":"2014-04-14T10:11:26","date_gmt":"2014-04-14T17:11:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=4961"},"modified":"2021-07-26T00:02:48","modified_gmt":"2021-07-26T07:02:48","slug":"the-big-c-and-me-my-cancer-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/04\/14\/the-big-c-and-me-my-cancer-story\/","title":{"rendered":"The Big C and Me: My Cancer Story"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

My Cancer Story<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

My Cancer Story<\/strong> is a collection of my blog posts and articles about my cancer experience over the years. I decided to pull them all together into one place to make them easy to find.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This turned out to be a much bigger projected than I expected. I’ve cataloged more than thirty here so far, and there are many more to add.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This is a work in progress.<\/strong> I will continue adding the posts already completed as well as the new posts to come, so check back from time to time. Tags are coming soon to allow for searching by topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It has been an eye opening exercise to go back through these posts and see how my attitude, perspective, writing style, and my life in general have all evolved over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My hope is that these pieces will provide someone with cancer some measure of hope, comfort, and useful information to help them along this difficult road. Even if you don’t have cancer, you just might find this story interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Life with Cancer<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Living with Dying<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Thoughts on friendship and cancer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We hold on to each other, we revel in memories, and we pop a bottle of champagne to\u00a0toast your memory while flipping cancer the bird. We embrace those who are still with us, and carry forward the memories of those who have gone before us.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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How Comparing Pain Multiplies Suffering<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No one should feel shame for experiencing pain. Pain is not a competition; it’s real and it’s valid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Taking Back October<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

My friends are dying, and it’s not for lack of awareness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breast Cancer Awareness month can be a big money making machine, but make sure your donations actually make a difference<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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In the Moment<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Contemplating a cancerversary (anniversary of cancer diagnosis) and embracing moments of pure joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The cancer experience changes over time.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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