{"id":4261,"date":"2013-05-21T18:46:50","date_gmt":"2013-05-22T01:46:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=4261"},"modified":"2022-03-25T21:26:28","modified_gmt":"2022-03-26T04:26:28","slug":"friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2013\/05\/21\/friends\/","title":{"rendered":"Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever watched little kids make friends? It blows me away with it&#8217;s simplicity and straightforwardness. They just run up and start playing together. No introductions necessary. No concern over who lives in what kind of house, or wears designer labels, or whose mom drives what kind of car. Shame and embarrassment and comparison? All that comes later. Much too soon, sadly.<\/p>\n<p>In the meantime, I&#8217;m learning from this kind of authenticity.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2013\/05\/friends\/bffs\/\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"4262\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2013\/05\/21\/friends\/bffs\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?fit=1653%2C1102\" data-orig-size=\"1653,1102\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;5.6&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NIKON D5000&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1292421746&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;55&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;800&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.033333333333333&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"BFFs\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?fit=640%2C426\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4262 size-large\" title=\"friends - CoffeeJitters.Net\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?resize=640%2C426\" alt=\"holding hands\" width=\"640\" height=\"426\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?resize=640%2C426 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?resize=300%2C200 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/BFFs.jpg?w=1653 1653w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>This is my daughter and her cousin, caught up in &#8220;I&#8217;m so happy to be here with you, I just wanna hold your hand.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>So precious.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Let&#8217;s Connect<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/CoffeeJitters\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"rss\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/rss.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/CoffeeJitters\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"facebook\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/facebook.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/116051222560493413716\/posts\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"google+\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/googleplus.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <a href=\"mailto:judy.haley@gmail.com\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"email me\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/email.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/coffeejitters\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"twitter\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/twitter.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a>&nbsp;.&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.stumbleupon.com\/stumbler\/coffeejitters\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"stumbleupon\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/stumbleupon.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <a href=\"http:\/\/pinterest.com\/coffeejitters\/\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"pinterest\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/pinterest.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a> . <span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"instagram\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/instagram.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span> . <span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"linkedin\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/linkedin.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span> . <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/coffeejitters\/\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"flickr\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/flickr.png?w=1080\" alt=\"\"\/><\/span><\/a><\/span><br \/>\n<a title=\"Follow CoffeeJitters on Bloglovin\" href=\"http:\/\/www.bloglovin.com\/en\/blog\/5176901\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bloglovin.com\/widget\/bilder\/en\/widget.gif?w=1080\" alt=\"Follow on Bloglovin\" border=\"0\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever watched little kids make friends? It blows me away with it&#8217;s simplicity and straightforwardness.  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