{"id":4130,"date":"2013-04-05T11:59:32","date_gmt":"2013-04-05T18:59:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=4130"},"modified":"2021-03-19T11:42:54","modified_gmt":"2021-03-19T18:42:54","slug":"ubp2013","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2013\/04\/05\/ubp2013\/","title":{"rendered":"Living is practicing the art of change management"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve had a little practice with change management – those changes that are planned months and years in advance, those changes that come out of nowhere and leave you off balance with your head spinning, and those little gradual changes that sneak up on you, and one day you realize your baby is half your height, and has opinions that are very much all her own.<\/p>\n

The best parts of my life came about through change, as did the worst. I’ve been thinking about my attraction\/repulsion response to change – sometimes both sensations at the same time in regards to the same issue.<\/p>\n

In last year’s Ultimate Blog Party post<\/a>, I\u00a0cataloged\u00a0some of the ways my blog has adapted to changes in my life:<\/p>\n

CoffeeJitters has been a single girl making her way in the world blog, a wedding blog, an infertility blog, a photography blog, a quitting my job and going back to school full time blog, a wow! I\u2019m pregnant! blog, a mommy blog, a cancer blog, and a relearning how to dream after cancer blog.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I’m still trying to relearn how to dream after cancer. It’s surprising how much imagination and willpower it takes to re-imagine your future after this kind of diagnosis. But, now I’ve moved on a little, from dreaming to planning, and even doing. Baby steps, people.<\/p>\n

This blog is my story, my life, and mostly, a very public love letter to my husband and daughter. If you’d like to read more, here are a few of my favorites to get you started:<\/p>\n

Just breathe<\/a><\/p>\n

Blogging – and women’s history<\/a><\/p>\n

The Camera Bag \u2013 and an epiphany<\/a><\/p>\n

Pregnancy 101: How to Roll Over<\/a><\/p>\n

cheers!<\/p>\n

\"ultimate<\/a><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

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