{"id":3842,"date":"2012-09-04T01:08:39","date_gmt":"2012-09-04T08:08:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=3842"},"modified":"2022-03-25T22:36:28","modified_gmt":"2022-03-26T05:36:28","slug":"eight-years-ww","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/09\/04\/eight-years-ww\/","title":{"rendered":"Eight years"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dear Universe:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The sickness and poorer part of our vows were not an invitation. I&#8217;ll have you know that despite pneumonia, cancer, myasethenia gravis, a combined 18 nights in the hospital, more than 10 dashes to the ER, 8 years of at least one and usually both of us as full-time college students, layoffs, hours cut, car trouble, eviction notices, healthy diets, exercise, a sweet and miraculously healthy baby girl, daily &#8220;adventures&#8221;, good friends, a lot of wine, belly laughs, a home full of books, homemade dinners, long conversations late into the night, snuggling, holding hands, and occasional long walks on the beach, we&#8217;re happier and more in love than ever. You should also be aware that we have not given up hope on the richer and health part of those vows. You know where to find us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/09\/eight-years-ww\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-7872\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"434\" height=\"550\" data-attachment-id=\"7872\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/09\/04\/eight-years-ww\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o.jpg?fit=434%2C550\" data-orig-size=\"434,550\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;5.6&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NIKON D70&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1094355078&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;31&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.008&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"judy schwartz haley\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o.jpg?fit=434%2C550\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o.jpg?resize=434%2C550\" alt=\"judy schwartz haley\" class=\"wp-image-7872\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o.jpg?w=434 434w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823073683_6a3bb68d6a_o.jpg?resize=300%2C380 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 434px) 100vw, 434px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/09\/eight-years-ww\/823948688_271cb3799e_o\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-7873\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"955\" data-attachment-id=\"7873\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/09\/04\/eight-years-ww\/823948688_271cb3799e_o\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?fit=723%2C1079\" data-orig-size=\"723,1079\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"judy schwartz haley and aaron albert haley\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?fit=640%2C955\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?resize=640%2C955\" alt=\"judy schwartz haley and aaron albert haley\" class=\"wp-image-7873\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?resize=640%2C955 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?resize=300%2C447 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/09\/823948688_271cb3799e_o.jpg?w=723 723w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Also, Happy Anniversary to my amazing husband. I love you more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2010\/09\/the-promise\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-2244\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"426\" data-attachment-id=\"2244\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2010\/09\/05\/the-promise\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?fit=1623%2C1081\" data-orig-size=\"1623,1081\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;5.6&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NIKON D70&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1094360012&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;Appika Studio LLC&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;70&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.008&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"wedding photo &amp;#8211; Judy Schwartz and Aaron Haley\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Judy Schwartz and Aaron Haley wedding&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?fit=640%2C426\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?resize=640%2C426\" alt=\"marriage\" class=\"wp-image-2244\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?resize=640%2C426 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?resize=300%2C199 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/751167469_c1c004fe5b_o.jpg?w=1623 1623w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Universe: The sickness and poorer part of our vows were not an invitation. 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