{"id":3771,"date":"2012-07-24T14:37:32","date_gmt":"2012-07-24T21:37:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=3771"},"modified":"2022-03-26T00:53:46","modified_gmt":"2022-03-26T07:53:46","slug":"giving-peas-a-chance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2012\/07\/24\/giving-peas-a-chance\/","title":{"rendered":"Giving peas a chance: how do I avoid passing on my food aversions to my child?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I don’t like peas. I would almost go so far as to say that I hate peas. Well, not really. I can appreciate them in theory, I know they’re healthy, I just really, really<\/em> don’t want to eat them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a mom, I don’t want to pass along my pea issues to my kiddo. How do I give her opportunities to make up her own mind about peas without inadvertently influencing or limiting her own ability to enjoy them?  I want her to like them, but it’s difficult not to shudder in their presence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"peas<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Well, true to form, my kid finds a way to make being her mom easy. (Yes, I know the teenage years are coming, and no I’m not prepared.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She is completely enamored with the little garden out back at our favorite coffee shop, C & P Coffee Company<\/a>.  She loves to inspect and name off the different plants: rosemary, oregano, lettuce, peppers, tomatoes, strawberries, and, yes, peas. She doesn’t just name them, she works her way through that tiny garden like a little rabbit, munching away on strawberries and lettuce, and, yes, peas. (she tried the rosemary and oregano, as well. Once.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This little garden makes it easy for me to get excited and show some enthusiasm for the peas. I love the flowers,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"pea<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n
\"pea<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

and I just can’t get enough of those curly tendrils.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"pea<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n
\"pea<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n
\"pea<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

And as I’m ooh-ing and ah-ing over these beautiful plants, getting lost in the moment with my camera, my precious little girl reaches up and hands me a baby pea as though she were giving me a gift. I couldn’t turn it down, so I ate it. And it wasn’t that bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don’t like peas, but as a mom, I don’t want to pass along my pea issues to my kiddo. 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