{"id":3289,"date":"2011-11-18T11:38:19","date_gmt":"2011-11-18T18:38:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=3289"},"modified":"2015-02-18T23:35:17","modified_gmt":"2015-02-19T06:35:17","slug":"who-she-saw","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2011\/11\/18\/who-she-saw\/","title":{"rendered":"Who she saw"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>She saw a woman with kind eyes and a big smile who was happy to play peek-a-boo with her.<\/p>\n<p>I saw a homeless woman with brown teeth grinning at my little girl.<\/p>\n<p>*Stranger Danger*\u00a0[Insert helicopter-mom posture here]<\/p>\n<p>Seriously, what was I afraid of? \u00a0Their exchange was completely innocent, and grounded in sharing joy. There was a full table width between them. Why the fear? Why did all my red flags go up? Am I really that shallow?<\/p>\n<p>When we talk about listening to our gut, how do we know the difference between intuition and prejudice? Bigotry can feel a lot like instinct.<\/p>\n<p>I consider her again as my daughter continues to play peek-a-boo and talk to her. She&#8217;s warming her hands around a cup of tea in a Pioneer Square coffee shop. Her clothes were tattered, but appeared clean. The coat had seen better days, as had her shoes. The clothes in the bags around her feet were faded, but neatly folded&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Oh, good grief. Really, Judy? Is that the best you can do?<\/p>\n<p>I had to look back a couple times before I saw not <em>what<\/em>, but <em>whom<\/em> my daughter saw: A woman with kind eyes and a big smile who was happy to play peek-a-boo with my little girl.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve got a lot of learning to do.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/07\/pnw-highland-games-2009\/bird-3\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8242\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"8242\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/07\/28\/pnw-highland-games-2009\/bird-3\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?fit=1774%2C1268\" data-orig-size=\"1774,1268\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"bird-3\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?fit=640%2C457\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-8242\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?resize=300%2C214\" alt=\"bird-3\" width=\"300\" height=\"214\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?resize=300%2C214 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?resize=640%2C457 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?resize=106%2C75 106w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?resize=82%2C57 82w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/07\/bird-3.png?w=1774 1774w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>She saw a woman with kind eyes and a big smile who was happy to play peek-a-boo with her. I saw a homeless woman with brown teeth grinning at my little girl. *Stranger Danger*\u00a0[Insert helicopter-mom posture here] Seriously, what was I afraid of? \u00a0Their exchange was completely innocent, and grounded in sharing joy. 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