{"id":327,"date":"2008-10-12T14:45:00","date_gmt":"2008-10-12T21:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=327"},"modified":"2014-08-10T19:22:05","modified_gmt":"2014-08-11T02:22:05","slug":"most-like-an-arch-this-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/10\/12\/most-like-an-arch-this-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Most Like an Arch This Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"marriage<\/a>
\n
\nMost Like an Arch This Marriage<\/span><\/h2>\n

By John Ciardi<\/p>\n

Most like an arch\u2014an entrance which upholds
\nand shores the stone-crush up the air like lace.
\nMass made idea, and idea held in place.
\nA lock in time. Inside half-heaven unfolds.<\/p>\n

Most like an arch\u2014two weaknesses that lean
\ninto a strength. Two fallings become firm.
\nTwo joined abeyances become a term
\nnaming the fact that teaches fact to mean.<\/p>\n

Not quite that? Not much less. World as it is,
\nwhat\u2019s strong and separate falters. All I do
\nat piling stone on stone apart from you
\nis roofless around nothing. Till we kiss<\/p>\n

I am no more than upright and unset.
\nIt is by falling in and in we make
\nthe all-bearing point, for one another\u2019s sake,
\nin faultless failing, raised by our own weight.<\/p>\n

The Collected Poems of John Ciardi<\/em> (University of Arkansas Press, 1997)<\/span><\/p>\n

6 years after our first date and I wouldn’t change a thing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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