{"id":2910,"date":"2011-05-10T00:37:48","date_gmt":"2011-05-10T07:37:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=2910"},"modified":"2021-03-17T19:46:06","modified_gmt":"2021-03-18T02:46:06","slug":"dear-gem-month-25","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2011\/05\/10\/dear-gem-month-25\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Gem – Month 25"},"content":{"rendered":"

The first rule of getting along with other people after you become a parent is\u00a0don’t brag about your child all the time<\/strong>. Or ever, actually. I break that rule every day. I’m one of those annoying moms – always trotting out the latest cute or amazing thing that my gorgeous little girl did. If I wasn’t your mom, I’d nauseate you. Actually, I’m sure your tweener, teen, and early adult years will be consumed by me nauseating you. It’s in the job description. But I’m getting ahead of myself here.<\/p>\n

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So here I am, a mommy blogger, discussing rules about how parents shouldn’t brag about their kids all the time. But, again, it’s in the job description. I mean, really, if your mom isn’t utterly amazed by you, over the moon about you, if your mom doesn’t brag about you… who will? \u00a0I don’t want to follow this train of thought too far, because the sad truth is that some kids don’t, for whatever reason, have someone who really goes to bat for them. Part of me wonders if this is the reason for the previously mentioned rule, but I know better. This rule rests on a much more shallow foundation.<\/p>\n

The truth is, bragging moms are annoying.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if there is one place on earth I should be allowed to brag about my darling daughter, it should be on my own blog, in a letter directly to her. Prepare to be annoyed.<\/p>\n

To lighten things up a bit, I’m going to limit this letter to bragging about about the adorable things you do imperfectly.<\/p>\n

There is nothing that makes my heart smile quite like watching you put your green Hello Kitty rain boots on the wrong feet and dancing around the living room.<\/p>\n

You pronounce applesauce and princess exactly the same way (“sausaus”).<\/p>\n

I didn’t think you knew any numbers above ten, but last night we were looking at a book, and when we got to page 25, you said “five-twent.” I was sure I heard that wrong, but you turned the page and then said “six-twent.”<\/p>\n

At the store the other day we were looking at stuffed animals, and you picked up the\u00a0rhinoceros\u00a0and called it a triceratops. How does a 2 year old store a four syllable word about a dinosaur with horn on it’s nose, and\u00a0retrieve\u00a0it at the appropriate time? I don’t care if you were wrong about the rhinoceros, I’m just blown away that you were wrong in such a cool way. I could never tell the dinosaurs apart (in fact, I had to go online and look it up), but from now on, I will always remember that the triceratops has a horn like a rhinoceros. See, parents learn things from their kids all the time.<\/p>\n

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I hope this doesn’t make you feel like you’ve been made fun of. Perfect is boring. It’s also an illusion. You can spend your life chasing perfection, but when it comes down to it, when you take stock of what you really love about someone, what makes your heart swell, generally the imperfections weigh in pretty heavily. That’s not to say you shouldn’t try your best, or try to improve. It means don’t be afraid to fail; don’t be afraid to try something because you won’t be perfect the first time. It means don’t let your stumbles paralyze you. Pick yourself up, and keep dancing, even if your boots are on the wrong feet.<\/p>\n

Imperfections make us unique, approachable, and lovable.\u00a0And you, my darling daughter, are infinitely lovable.<\/p>\n

I love you so much,<\/p>\n

Mommy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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