{"id":287,"date":"2008-08-04T00:05:00","date_gmt":"2008-08-04T07:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=287"},"modified":"2021-03-17T19:19:52","modified_gmt":"2021-03-18T02:19:52","slug":"wanna-be-mommy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/08\/04\/wanna-be-mommy\/","title":{"rendered":"Wanna-Be-Mommy"},"content":{"rendered":"

I haven’t talked in this blog much about my infertility issues. Sometimes I have to wait till I’m ready to open the door on a topic.<\/p>\n

We’re starving college students with no money. We haven’t really tried much beyond Clomid, Metformin and lots and lots of practice. On the other hand, I’m not that far off from 40, in fact she’s openly mocking me. I’m starting to feel the old biological clock speed up.<\/p>\n

I know the vast majority of my readers are Mommies. I also know that for many of you, conceiving that little bundle of joy was not quite as easy as we were led to believe in health class.<\/p>\n

One of the questions I ponder is: if we don’t have enough money, or even a house to mortgage, for fertility treatments or adoption, how on earth are we going to have enough money to properly care for a child? I know that’s not helpful. I know there’s a big difference between shelling out $10 to $50K up-front and shelling out the same amount over an extended period of time. What is it that makes us so susceptible to self-doubt?<\/p>\n

We’re also considering adoption or fostering, but my husband’s work, once he finishes this Master’s degree, will most likely involve us living abroad. We need to be able to take the kids, possibly permanently, out of the country.<\/p>\n

So here’s the point: I’m asking for your advice. What do you suggest? What worked for you? Any words of wisdom you want to share with me and all the other wanna-be-mommies out there?<\/p>\n

UPDATE:<\/strong> What I didn’t know when I wrote this post was that I was already pregnant<\/a>!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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