{"id":259,"date":"2008-07-10T11:27:00","date_gmt":"2008-07-10T18:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=259"},"modified":"2014-08-02T22:39:43","modified_gmt":"2014-08-03T05:39:43","slug":"the-last-post","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/07\/10\/the-last-post\/","title":{"rendered":"The Last Post"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Saturday morning <a href=\"http:\/\/punkrockmommy.org\/blog\/\">Punk Rock Mommy<\/a> died from inflammatory breast cancer.<\/p>\n<p>Her husband uploaded her last post and I read it<a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/07\/the-last-post\/punk-rock-mommy\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6380\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"6380\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/07\/10\/the-last-post\/punk-rock-mommy\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?fit=800%2C800\" data-orig-size=\"800,800\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"punk-rock-mommy\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?fit=640%2C640\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-6380\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"punk rock mommy\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?resize=300%2C300 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?resize=150%2C150 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?resize=640%2C640 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/punk-rock-mommy.png?w=800 800w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>and cried.<\/p>\n<p>I never met Punk Rock Mommy, I had never read her blog before this morning. But I am struck by the human spirit and how impending death can clarify perspective. Punk Rock Mommy couldn&#8217;t be more different from my father, yet they both died from cancer in the past year, and they both, in that last year of their lives, gained a super-human measure of perspective and wisdom. Things that separated my dad from Punk Rock Mommy and Randy Pausch (who wrote <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelastlecture.com\/\">The Last Lecture<\/a>), things like religion, ethnicity, gender, and politics are superficial labels, but underneath &#8211; we&#8217;re all more alike than different. The messages that they left us with (or are leaving us with, Randy Pausch is still fighting pancreatic cancer) are essentially the same: love one another, choose to be happy, don&#8217;t ruin the rest of your life mourning, don&#8217;t live your life in &#8220;someday,&#8221; live right now, don&#8217;t waste your time on anger it&#8217;ll just ruin your day. This quote from Punk Rock Mommy really leaped out at me: &#8220;I am no doormat, but I just let go of all that hard core resentment.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>How can we learn from this? What would you do differently if you had a week, or a month, or a year left to live? What would you write in your last post? What message would you leave for your family, friends, and the world&#8217;s prying eyes?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Saturday morning Punk Rock Mommy died from inflammatory breast cancer. Her husband uploaded her last post and I read it and cried. I never met Punk Rock Mommy, I had never read her blog before this morning. But I am struck by the human spirit and how impending death can clarify perspective. 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