{"id":194,"date":"2008-05-10T09:30:00","date_gmt":"2008-05-10T16:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=194"},"modified":"2021-03-17T19:20:38","modified_gmt":"2021-03-18T02:20:38","slug":"precious-fragile-life-when-the-unthinkable-happens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2008\/05\/10\/precious-fragile-life-when-the-unthinkable-happens\/","title":{"rendered":"Precious Fragile Life: When the unthinkable happens"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Yesterday I was introduced to a new blog. I don&#8217;t know who directed me there because the moment I landed on this blog, time stopped. This is the heartbreaking, achingly beautiful story of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mattlogelin.com\/\">matt, liz and madeline<\/a>. Liz gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in March, and died the next day. This blog is about everything that happens after: a day by day account of Matt learning to be a father and grieving his wife at the same time. He has a strong community of friends, and a larger community of strangers reaching out to him from around the world. Madeline is lovely at a little over a month old and Matt is doing a great job with her. Every person in this story is beautiful, yet each new post brings more tears.<\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><a href=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/juggle-cancer-parenting\/border-pink\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-7071\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"7071\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2014\/09\/01\/juggle-cancer-parenting\/border-pink\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/border-pink.png?fit=640%2C89\" data-orig-size=\"640,89\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"border-pink\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/border-pink.png?fit=640%2C89\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7071\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/border-pink.png?resize=640%2C89\" alt=\"coffeejitters border pink\" width=\"640\" height=\"89\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/border-pink.png?w=640 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/border-pink.png?resize=300%2C41 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This is the heartbreaking, achingly beautiful story of matt, liz and madeline. 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