{"id":1281,"date":"2009-08-13T12:28:46","date_gmt":"2009-08-13T19:28:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/?p=1281"},"modified":"2014-11-21T18:07:21","modified_gmt":"2014-11-22T01:07:21","slug":"in-her-grip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/08\/13\/in-her-grip\/","title":{"rendered":"In Her Grip"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For months my baby girl would hold on to a toy you put in her hand, but it wasn&#8217;t really meaningful to her.\u00a0 And then, some moment when I wasn&#8217;t watching, she started playing with them: holding, shaking, tasting, passing it from hand to hand until it drops to the floor and the entire world comes to an end.\u00a0 At times I&#8217;ve even caught her talking to them, and I don&#8217;t know if I have ever witnessed anything quite so endearing.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"7582\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/08\/13\/in-her-grip\/in-her-grip-01\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-01.jpg?fit=640%2C396\" data-orig-size=\"640,396\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"in-her-grip-01\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-01.jpg?fit=640%2C396\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7582\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-01.jpg?resize=640%2C396\" alt=\"in her grip\" width=\"640\" height=\"396\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-01.jpg?w=640 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-01.jpg?resize=300%2C185 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"7583\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/08\/13\/in-her-grip\/in-her-grip-02\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?fit=640%2C396\" data-orig-size=\"640,396\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"in-her-grip-02\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?fit=640%2C396\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7583\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=640%2C396\" alt=\"in her grip\" width=\"640\" height=\"396\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?w=640 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=300%2C185 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>She&#8217;s picked her favorite toys as well.\u00a0 Not one favorite toy. Three.\u00a0 And she tries to hold on to all three of them at the same time, with varying degrees of success.\u00a0 I clipped two of them together in an attempt to save my own sanity. The toys are easier for her to hold; my sanity is still in question.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"7584\" data-permalink=\"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2009\/08\/13\/in-her-grip\/in-her-grip-03\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-03.jpg?fit=640%2C853\" data-orig-size=\"640,853\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"in-her-grip-03\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-03.jpg?fit=640%2C853\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-7584\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-03.jpg?resize=640%2C853\" alt=\"in her grip\" width=\"640\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-03.jpg?w=640 640w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-03.jpg?resize=300%2C399 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>And then, some moment when I wasn&#8217;t watching, she started playing with them: holding, shaking, tasting, passing it from hand to hand until it drops to the floor and the entire world comes to an end.  At times I&#8217;ve even caught her talking to them, and I don&#8217;t know if I have ever witnessed anything quite so endearing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7583,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[761,694,138],"tags":[272],"class_list":["post-1281","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-family-living-well","category-living-well","category-parenting-living-well","tag-gem","et-has-post-format-content","et_post_format-et-post-format-standard"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?fit=640%2C396","blog_post_layout_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=150%2C150",150,150,true],"full":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?fit=640%2C396",640,396,false]},"categories_names":{"761":{"name":"Family","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/category\/living-well\/family-living-well\/"},"694":{"name":"Living Well","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/category\/living-well\/"},"138":{"name":"Parenting &amp; Family","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/category\/parenting-living-well\/"}},"tags_names":{"272":{"name":"gem","link":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/tag\/gem\/"}},"comments_number":0,"wpmagazine_modules_lite_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=150%2C150",150,150,true],"cvmm-medium":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=300%2C300",300,300,true],"cvmm-medium-plus":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=305%2C207",305,207,true],"cvmm-portrait":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=400%2C396",400,396,true],"cvmm-medium-square":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=600%2C396",600,396,true],"cvmm-large":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=640%2C396",640,396,true],"cvmm-small":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?resize=130%2C95",130,95,true],"full":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/in-her-grip-02.jpg?fit=640%2C396",640,396,false]},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1fDeG-kF","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":4070,"url":"http:\/\/coffeejitters.net\/blog\/2013\/01\/15\/just-breathe\/","url_meta":{"origin":1281,"position":0},"title":"Just Breathe","author":"Judy Schwartz Haley","date":"","format":false,"excerpt":"Sometimes all we have left is our breath. 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