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It was a long day that followed a long night.\u00a0 We were both frazzled, exhausted, irritable, and in that careful, walking on eggshells, mode of interacting – trying, somewhat successfully, to avoid snapping at each other over nothing.<\/p>\n

I was on the couch working on my laptop while rocking the baby in her chair with my foot, and he was at his desk typing at his computer.<\/p>\n

There was something about his slouch, the weary yet determined posture, that triggered my brain to fast forward fifty years and I saw him in his eighties – and then it washed over me – this overwhelming feeling of contentment with my life and our future together.<\/p>\n

I’m a lucky girl.<\/p>\n

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